(Eddie V.
Rentz is director of National Youth Ministries, Springfield, Missouri.)
By Eddie V. Rentz
He was there
with his wife and newborn baby. I noticed them because they were so excited
about God’s gift to them—their child. They were among the approximately 50
youth pastors and workers who had come to the district youth leaders conference
because they were hungry to grow as leaders. The conference was charged with
energy and enthusiasm. During one of the roundtable discussions, I fielded
questions about vision, how to plan outreaches, and discussed products
available to help them become more relevant as leaders. The mood was light.
Then it
happened. It was one of those moments that changes the atmosphere in a room.
The young man I noticed earlier was visibly upset. His voice began to crack
with emotion as he shared the pain he experienced in the past two positions he
held. They were terrible experiences; he and his wife were wounded deeply. Both
pastors he had served feared change. They opposed anything different from the
way youth ministry had been done in the past. As tears ran down his cheeks, he
shared how he was afraid this would happen in his new position. He could not go
through this again. His sharing opened a floodgate. Others began to share
similar experiences in their journey of youth ministry. Most spoke with broken
hearts, afraid they too would again be wounded. Suddenly the room had grown
solemn.
WE’RE LOSING YOUTH PASTORS
If this were
a rare account, I would dismiss it as someone who is unable to work well with
others. Unfortunately, I hear similar accounts more than I care to tally. There
is a boneyard of potential nation-changers who have become so discouraged they
have either left the ministry or now hobble along wounded and ineffective.
Survival is their way of life. Some churches change youth pastors as often as
people change clothes.
With only 2,550 full-time youth pastors and 23
million teenagers in this country, we cannot afford to lose one youth pastor
to discouragement or mistreatment.
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There are
many fine pastors in our Fellowship. However, if we are going to reach the next
generation, we must reevaluate what we are doing. With only 2,690 Assemblies of
God youth pastors and 23 million teenagers in this country, we cannot afford to
lose one youth pastor to discouragement or mistreatment, especially since we
have only 317,000 young people involved in Assemblies of God youth groups.
Allow me to share a few thoughts on how to kill a youth ministry. These are not
the only elements, but they are the ones I see time and time again. Pastor, my
desire is that you will open your heart to ask the Lord if you are hindering
youth ministry or empowering today’s youth leaders.
THREE WAYS TO KILL A YOUTH MINISTRY
Mistrust
Wolf J.
Rinke, author of 6 Fail-Safe Strategies for Building High Performance
Organizations, writes, "If you mistrust your employees, you’ll be
right 3 percent of the time. If you trust people until they give you a reason
not to, you’ll be right 97 percent of the time." Not trusting or believing
in your youth pastor will create resentment and weaken his confidence.
Les Giblin
said, "You can’t make the other fellow feel important in your presence if
you secretly feel that he is a nobody." While it is true that our
confidence is in the Lord, as a mentor you have the power to build up or tear
down the confidence of the person God has placed in your care.
Mistrust
hinders the potential of people, no matter what title or position they hold.
Proverbs 18:21 states, "Death and life are in the power of the
tongue." The enemy of our souls is doing everything he can to condemn and
render ineffective each person called of God. Jesus warned in Luke 17:1,
"Offenses will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come!"
Henry L.
Simpson, former U.S. Secretary of State, said, "The chief lesson I have
learned in a long life is that the only way you can make a man trustworthy is
by trusting him; and the surest way to make him untrustworthy is to distrust
him and show your distrust."
Many pastors
have tragic stories of being burned by a staff member. However, we must forgive
and trust again. Guard against working from a lack of trust. Jesus believed in
those who were entrusted to His care. He was patient and forgiving. He showed
them by example how they should live, love, and serve others. When they failed,
He encouraged and forgave them. God has placed in your care a young minister to
mentor and lovingly care for while he or she is serving you and your youth.
B.C. Forbes
said, "Better to be occasionally cheated than perpetually
suspicious." Are you struggling with mistrust? Ask God to help you
overcome, or it will kill your youth ministry.
Resistance to Change
The gospel
is sacred; it must not change. However, the methods in proclaiming it are
always changing. We live in a post-Christian nation. Truth has been swallowed
by relativity. The stories of the Bible are foreign to a majority of teenagers
in our country. They see the church as irrelevant and boring. To reach this
generation, we must be open to new ways to communicate truth. Some of the
necessary tools are unique to this generation.
Some pastors
say that colored lights that move or using video, certain styles of music, and
even drama are of the devil and compromise the Word of God. We must remind
ourselves that these are just tools. The message of the gospel does not change.
Holiness is not the absence of moving lights or loud music. It is not a lack of
holiness to use video or illustrated sermons to proclaim the message of Christ.
As a senior
pastor, you may feel uncomfortable with how your youth pastor reaches the lost.
One well-known Assemblies of God pastor made a comment about the youth group in
his church as being wild and loud. He expressed his discomfort with the methods
they used as different from the way youth ministry once was. However, with
excitement in his voice, he spoke of how God is saving more teens than ever,
and that they were on fire and growing in the ways of the Lord. He realized
that his discomfort was not a barometer of God’s disapproval, just his struggle
with his age.
The youth
ministries that are thriving are using creative methods to reach the lost. They
have not stopped praying or discipling teens—if anything, they are more
committed to those elements. However, they are creatively using whatever tools
they have to preach the Word to more teenagers.
One youth
group uses video and PowerPoint demonstrations to communicate the gospel.
Another group does an illustrated sermon once a month. They incorporate drama,
make-up, lights, and video to preach a powerful message of truth. One youth
pastor staged an accident outside the church and once transformed the sanctuary
into "hell." His group has grown from 75 to more than 600 teenagers.
Other youth
pastors are doing weekend outreaches that turn the church parking lot into a
recreation center. They build skateboard ramps, put up basketball hoops, erect
climbing walls, set up paintball courses, and then preach the gospel during a
mandatory halftime. Pastor, only you have the power to allow your youth pastor
the freedom to use other methods to reach lost teens. You will get
complaints—something different usually does. Be courageous and supportive. You
will reap a harvest of new souls.
Lack of Money
I am not
speaking about the salaries of youth pastors, although that needs addressing.
Rather, I am speaking about the lack of money churches invest into building an
effective youth ministry. Many youth pastors are given no funds to reach teens.
They are told to raise their own budget.
Churches
that are growing have made it a priority to invest in both children and youth.
If you reach a teenager, you touch the hearts of the parents. Many youth
pastors struggle with a lack of resources to build a relevant youth ministry.
We must
invest in our youth ministry. We are in a crisis within the Assemblies of God.
Our churches are declining in growth, and we are aging as a Movement. Churches
are closing faster than we care to admit. If we do not act now, we will lose
this generation. Time is of the essence. Every day 80,000 people die and go to
hell without ever having heard the gospel. Show me a youth ministry that is
reaching teens, and I will show you a church that is investing money in that
program. How much money does your church give your youth ministry to reach
teens?
YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE
Pastor, you
can make a difference in the youth of your church and community. Let your youth
pastor know how important he or she is by spending time mentoring and
encouraging him or her. Build trust. Be open to new ways to reach this
generation and give so your leadership has everything it needs to touch young
people for Christ. I know you care. Start today to make a difference. You will
be grateful you did. Your youth pastor will rise to meet the challenge if you
will only give him or her your trust and support.
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